Filed under: Life Events
Ha! As my female collegues will answer in the affirmative. That our boss is the ultimate in ignoring people if he chooses 
The women all hate it so much, I guess its an ingrain thing of needing to feel needed. Social creatures women are so such “punishment” works the best.
Unfortunately for him, most of his staff are guys are the moment, we love it that he ignores us so one of the guys is the main management material. Fortunately or not, he’s the go between for all of us. Interesting enough even he finds that he’s begining to think like the boss. Is that good or bad? Nobody knows.
Watched a program last night, about millionaires. Saw only a few minutes of it. One of the people commented that most self-made multi-millionaires tend to be more supportive of the staff then others. The principle being, if I can help you perform your best, the company benefits, the staff benefits and ultimately the boss benefits.
The other comment that was made was “the happier you are at work, the better you perform”. The general comment, was this was a load of crap. When has anybody gotten a paycheck that says “for your happiness at work”. Nobody is always happy all the time. There are always moments of happiness and unpleasantness. If you focus on making sure that the boss looks good, he’ll look out for you.
Is this always true? I wonder. The question is why do you want to be under that boss all the time. The unfortunate truth is that many people have no idea who really performs well. The one who make presentations or the one who did the work to create the presentations? Truthfully, that’s what politicians are every where. We can do without them, but we need them to get the masses together. No I don’t necessarily mean government types, but also those within companies.
Still do we want to be that? Why the hell not!?!? More money.. but you’ll have to be careful of people like me who might just for the fun of it spoof information just to damm the speaker. hehehe. Then provide the correct solution.
Still we all have to sell ourselves to work. Unfortunately, the job hunting is so massive nowadays, that we have to be able to sell ourselves in 3 seconds or less, or else our resumes get dumped into the “waste”. Learning to bring out a irresistible offer of our skills and knowledge is the goal for me in the coming month.
Filed under: Life Events
Finally results out…
Yeah lousy 3rd class honours.. well to be expected.. never did study hard..
but so glad its over.
One of my friends commented “Congrats michael. Well, so long as you felt it was worth it and got something out of it. Girls maybe?”
I replied “Yup sure did, had this crazy malaysian accountant that followed me around, always sat near me. One day, some of the others noticed that I talked to her. They said, “How come you’re talking to her.. don’t you know she’s nuts?” Then of course we began a lively converstation of “What else did she do to show she was nuts!” hehehe Man, we all had a really good laugh about it.. brings back fun memories.
During those days I made sure I was sitting on the side of the classroom and tried to make sure another friend was sitting next to me so that I didn’t have to sit next to her.
Filed under: Thoughts
An wise saying by Fredrick Nietzsche, “Convictions are more dangerous enemies of truth than lies”.
There are times, when I tire of people who hold convictions that “because they are xxxx (something they strongly believe in), they cannot be wrong and everybody else is wrong. ” I’ve been brought up to be a Catholic, the usual yada yada about the holy spirit being on us, will guide us to be do good and right things. Seriously over the years, I’ve begun to truly doubt that it does nothing but confuse the believers. Can you truly always act in the semblance of truth? Is true such that its always black and white?
Recently, I went to Sunday mass with my mom. We had a priest that was all brimstone and fire. I had a great amusing time listen to him commenting on this and that. He was commenting on why do the people who belong to various church organisation have petty jealousy, anger, dislike and many other negative emotions. Why do the people, who after mass, still go out and do such bad stuff if they say they believe in God.
The last time a priest tried that in my church, he had lots of people complain to the parish priest (head priest of the parish for those not knowing). I thought whoa betide this poor priest. I went home and later overheard my mom and her best friend commenting on the priest, in such that they agreed with some of the criticisms but thought that others were simply untrue. The fact is, all of it was true to varying degrees but they could not see it.
I believe that the people (I think its rather old people heavy, although we’re getting more young converts) totally believe that they have been good for a long time. How dare some upstart priest make comments on their exemplary behavior?!?! Privately I had a good laugh at their ignorance.
I’ve always said and learned the hard way, good intentions does not beget good works or good results. Most of the time, its actually more harming then good if thats the attitude of the people. I love the line sprouted by many people, “I have good intentions and the Holy Spirit guides my actions, I can’t do anything wrong!” Hahhaahahha always love it when they sprout just strong convictions of the righteousness. Don’t they realise that its precisely that sort of thinking that can sink ships and start wars?
The sad thing, its not only religious belief, sometimes, social or ideological beliefs that create such fervor. As Karl Marx once said, that the rich oppress the working class through, law, ideology and religion. I think thats true in so many levels. The strangest thing that I don’t see a religion teaching is the how do you do “this”? They always very clearly say, if you don’t do “This” you will be punished by God. This maybe some commandments which I call the “don’t do” instructions or the “love thy neighbour as yourself” the “do” instructions. The problem is that they never tell you how. How do you love thy neighbour, how do you forgive a person for hurting you, how do you begin to have universal love. I strongly suspect, they don’t know either!
Or worst still, they do know but won’t say because to do so, would make people realise that they can go to God direct and bypass all the religious organisations. What annoys me the most is that they almost universally say “Pray to God about it. Ask God to show you how.” Like we have eternity to wait for that. If God did answer someone, why don’t they tell the rest of the poor sobs like us?
Even worst, I think many people use these as blackmail tools to get what they want. For example, people would try to get others to do something, either by hinting or looking pointedly and disapprovingly at you (what they have no mouths to ask?) trying to get you to move or squeeze in the pews so that they can sit down. Or any situation that tries to make you feel guilty for not doing something that is suppose to be moral or ethical or religious. Yup I call it blackmail and I will never retract that.
Unfortunately, it happens with most people in general. Everyone is taught by the parents, you must get ahead in this competitive world. I think its kind of oxymoronic, don’t share your knowledge with others in case they do better then you. On the other hand, you must share your food, do charity for the poor. So what if the poor is the one may do better at studies. What is a kid suppose to understand out of this?
Filed under: Healing
How many time have we reacted to things that we see or hear but we don’t understand why it affects us like this. For example, maybe your friend/relative or simple an object, for some unexplainable reason invokes feelings of anger, jealousy, sadness or positive emotions like joy, happiness. For example, we may see a heart shaped stone, it reminds you of one that was given by a boyfriend, that memory can invoke rage, sadness, happiness depending on what you’ve associated it with. Worst of, sometimes we simply get angry/annoyed by people by their mere presense or when they speak even in neutral tones.
What can we do about it? I’ve found a interesting prayer written by Joe Vitale that address just this problem. The exact words are not important, but the feelings that you want to remove and what you want to replace it with should be present when you say this prayer. Even if you don’t believe this prayer. Then insert that disbelief in the prayer and use the intention to replace it with belief.
Spirit, please locate the origin of my feelings and thoughts of <insert your negative or limiting belief>.
Take each and every level, layer, area, and aspect of my Being to this origin.
Analyze and resolve it perfectly with God’s truth.
Come through all generations of time and eternity, healing every incident and its appendages based on the origin. Please do it according to God’s will until I’m at the present — filled with light and truth, God’s peace and love, forgiveness of every person, place, circumstance and event which contributed to these feelings and thoughts. With total forgiveness and unconditional love, I delete the old from my DNA, release it and let it go now.
I feel <insert that you want to feel>,
I allow every physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual problem, and inappropriate behaviour based on the old feelings to quickly disappear. Thank you spirit for coming to my aid and helping me attain a full measure of my nature my creation.
Thank you thank you thank you. I love you and praise God for where all blessings flow.
I’ve tried this, I found that it does work. For some of the emotional stuff that makes me angry, I’ve been using it. In most cases, it has reduce and in some cases freed me of having that feeling being invoked when I lease expect it.
However, I do warn you, that some of these beliefs that we have, have been with us for such a long time that our own energy flow might be slowed or damaged. When I used it on one of the strongest reactions for me, I found that I had strange aches and felt that I need to throw up. It passed rather quickly, but I would suggest you don’t try this while driving. In case your reactions are even stronger then mine. Such reactions, are known in the psychic world as growth periods. This is when the body adjusts to new energy flow, get rid of blockages and toxins that may be trapped. Best practice in such a case, is rest, food, exercise, sex and fun!
Filed under: Meditation
This was proposed by Klaus Joehle (www.livingonlove.com) who has written books on “Living on love”. I’ve been practicing this meditation on being a beacon or radiator for love. I was wondering if I did this would I see myself differently, would people see me differently. Louis Yegara wrote a write up on this mediation after 7 months of practice here is the link. Oh yes the actual mp3 on the meditation itself can be found here (its called the Opening the flow of love.)
So far for me, I feel more compassionate towards people, which I think is a good thing. I’m not sure how long I would keep this up, but I think if I’m feeling good about it, probably for a long time.
An interesting thing for me, is that I did cry during the first few times of doing this meditations, not because of sadness but a realisation that I can be loved and that the universe is boundless love.
Filed under: Life Events
This morning I brought my mom to church as usual. In front of us, sat a father and his aultruistic daughter. Everyone around them, watch them, I believe in curiosity and saddness for him.
After mass, my mother made a comment on “How poor thing. How ker lian”
The strange thing is I saw them in a totally different light. From what I could see and sense, the daughter’s soul was almost in a constant symphony, where she was playing various instruments, the flute, drums and whatever else took her fancy. There was a sublime joy in the movements and the rythms of her actions. Would not we all love to live a life in joy of doing what we want? In total spiritual and emotional congruence to live in joy and happiness. This was what I saw in the girl. She may never live a normal life as we think she should. She may never be a great composer or musician. She may not even have someone later in life to love her but in her own world, would she find comfort? I dearly hope so. Although in this life, we ourselves may never see or experience that joy, I think its something we should strive for. Or even if we do see the chance for it, will we let go of what we think people would say of us and simple be in the moment, be in the now and experience the unlimited joy? I hope one day, I will find that thing that will show me this.
The father show me yet a different side. He was amazingly tender and loving to her daughter. He even greeted all round him with hope and happiness. That surprised me and those around me, most poeple would not want to attract attention if they have a child like that. He didn’t feel that way, I felt he felt proud that he had a daughter no matter what she is. The love he show was astounding, its something that I don’t know if I can even hope to achieve. Limitless and without reservations. All religions want you to have that. But none of them tells you how to achieve that. I hope one day I can learn, from whatever source to love people like that. Unlimited and without reservations. That would be the greatest gift that could be bestowed on me.
Its been a surprising few weeks for me. Been feeling more, been appreciating more been living more. One of these days I’ll write about the meditation I’ve found recently about being the fountain of love, beacon of love. And how to finally let go of old grudges, old anger, old memories that always seem to resurface, when something similiar happens.
I’ve been calmer and more compassionate lately. I hope that continues to grow.
Filed under: Life Events
My friend and I both have this problem. After a time getting to know us either through schools or internet or whatever, these women will make a comment like “I don’t understand why you are not married. Your kind, understand, cook well, <fill in whatever positive comments>, but why don’t you have a girlfriend or a wife.” Now we both will answer “You’re single, do you want to marry me?” The girl will inevitably go “err aahh.. no not really.” Its like a universal truth for the both of us. Yes its sad and strange, for me this has happened since my university days, 1989-1993 until 2007.. think about it, its 14 years.
Until yesterday night, I met an old friend whom I got to know maybe 7-8 years ago over ICQ I think. She’s had a hard life with love (divorced), with her own spiritual abilities and unexpected spiritual problems. In an age (10 years ago) where people still look down on divorcees, not so much today but still true somewhat.
She met with me after not meeting up for over 4 years, of course I said yes even though she’s married and I made sure it was alright with her and her husband first. This woman is exceedingly beautiful. She has the kind of look that electrifies many males younger and older. Shes my age group now but still looks very good.
After talking sometime about all kinds of stuff that has happened in our lives, she says, “When we got to know each other over the internet and other conventional conversations, I thought here was a man that was kind, hardworking and would never cheat, had many positive attributes. I thought that you would be a man that I could marry and was trying to decided should I go after you.” Thud.. my jaw dropped.. what the hack?!?!
“After you came back from the US, you came over to my place and since then and after, you only showed respect and friendship, I wasn’t sure if I should chase you or not.”
She goes on to say, that I should lose some weight as I don’t look physically attractive (yup I totally agree with that), so that women could look at me and appreciate me for what I am. But only a mature women would understand not a young person.
Ah well darn there goes all those pretty young things! hahah still I was astounded.. here I thought I would forever be thought of as a ”good friend” never as a lover or husband material. Here was a woman who shattered that belief.. for that I thank her forever.
It was a good weekend.. see my other post on aultruistic love.
Filed under: Video Review
Have you ever wished that you wanted something more out of life and felt that you deserved it?
But got nothing but crap, anger and loneliness instead? This is what The Secret tries to address. It shows you why you don’t get the stuff you want and how often that you get crap instead. You can find this video at various stores in Singapore now. Places like PageOne. The amazon link is http://www.amazon.com/Secret-Extended-Rhonda-Byrne/dp/B000K8LV1O/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1/104-5133933-6824767?ie=UTF8&s=dvd&qid=1186734040&sr=8-1
Its a condensation of many metaphysical concepts focus around attracting what you want from the universe. There are several ideas that it focuses on but not in too great a depth. The video is more a condensaton of ideas, the book I preseume would give you more concrete ideas. The video highlights the concepts and how various authors/motivation gurus view it and how they applied it to life. I’m not sure if this following highlights the correct ideas. But here goes.
1) First you have to be grateful for what you have. Nothing more will come in until you learn to be grateful in your life. They give a great idea on how to learn to be grateful. Take a rock, stone, pebble or anything unbreakable. (you don’t want to be stabbed accidently by it). Put it into your pocket, jeans, purse or whatever. Everyday, when you leave for work or return home. Take it out put into your pants, or take it out to put it onto the table. Think of one or more things that you are greatful that happened today. It could be something minor or major. It could have been simple as seening a butterfly resting on a flower, or someone opening the door for you, some kinds words you gave or recieved. Be grateful be thankful that you’ve seen a minor miracle, or that you’ve done something nice or somebody did something nice for you. Be thankful for the husband to irons the clothes, fixes the taps, or the wife who cooks, or cleans or even just buys food for you. Be thankful that someone made a unique gift that expresses their joy of your presense in their life. When you’re grateful and thankful, the universe and people will be more willing to give you even more to be thankful for.
2) Learn to think or control your thoughts. How many times have we groan and moaned about something in life. Everywhere we go, somebody is unhappy about something, or angry that they did not get a promotion, or got a bad job or don’t have a good relationship. We hear it in the office, in the canteen, at the dinner table at home and most of all we hear it in our thoughts day in and day out. Whats more, the media is always showing us negative things in the news, movies protray violence, the evil of money and power, the anger and jealousy of couples, unhappy children of breakups. The more we think of such things the more we will react EXACTLY the way they we see it. Its time we change the way we think. Its time to replace those thoughts with positive ones. See the relationship as a happy one, as a communicative one. See the positive side of a person and not always drag up the old errors that was intentional or not. If we keep focusing on the bad and negative stuff, all we do is look for more of it and in a way the universe and people will give you more of it because you expect it.
3) Focus, focus, focus. We need to have a focus in life. Most of us, say we want this and that. The next moment we want this and that with x variation then y variation. Its like visiting a cafe, ordering tea, but before the tea can arrive, you change it to Earl Grey, then before that can arrive, you change it to coffee and then cuppicino and so on. Then you complain that this shop never gives you what you want. How can it? How can anyone give you what you want if what you want is changing every single minute? Learn to focus on what you want, what you believe is possible. This doesn’t mean that you can’t change your mind. What it does mean is that you need to hold that thought, that desire for a reasonable length of time, to do some action to achieve that goal.
4) Finally learn to be thankful and grateful for the thing that you just focused your attention on. Feel every emotion, every joy, happiness, satisfaction that this want will bring. Most of all be grateful that it was provided. Don’t want it to happen, already know that it has happened and be grateful for it.
My only gripe about it is too short, but then what can you expect in a video. Not enough details to actually work with it. I guess you need the actual book to see the details. I like the fact that they put on many authors even the “Chicken soup for the soul” author on how he published his first book by applying the principle.
Filed under: Life Events
Looking back at emails I had made to many of my friends in 2002-2003 when I was in the US.
I realised that I made many comments that now that I look back seems a lot wiser then the comments that I make now. Why on earth is that happening? I read tons of books, spoken to people I thought was more wise then me, yet after reading my writings a long time ago. Its like I’ve grown dumber, less inituitive, less understanding and possibilly less practical.
Why? I’ve still not discovered. I thought maybe its time to write a blog to at least have something to remind myself what I’ve learned and to help others if they are also too searching for knowledge and hopefully wisdom. Also I hope that there will be fellow contributors that comment on and more importantly challenge my views. Its the discussion that embeds the knowledge and turn it into wisdom.
Welcome one and all, lets begin a journey together.
